Confessions huh
Well I thought about it and I’ve written most of my confessions on my blog already. Yep, just checked, go back to February 2008 to read Super Woman Confessions and Super Mom Confessions (and then here and there they’re sprawled out). But here’s another one I suppose. I am constantly scared I am making all the wrong parenting decisions. Steven says I worry too much. But I honestly worry I am screwing my kids up for the rest of their life. And I’m not secure enough in my standings as a mother to kid that the things I do are just “ammo for their therapist.”
You make decisions and then you work with them and try (try being a very key word) to be consistent (because all the books say you at a very minimum better be consistent), but it’s totally trial and error and I have no idea what the end result will look like. And then, how much of the end result is because of things I did and how much of it is their personality?
And if that doesn’t work (the confession part), how about this? On Friday (when I was so freakin’ stoned on narcotics and still in massive amounts of pain I couldn’t think straight) I left the children’s tylenol down on the counter (which I’ve been taking around the clock and I’ve gone through 5 bottles of so far). Steven went into the bathroom a couple hours later to find an empty bottle of tylenol. [Tangent-I’ve had several kid’s who have overdosed on tylenol that have lost their livers, I was scared spitless at this point] We don’t know which child drank the rest of the tylenol. Our guess is there was about 30ml left. We called poison control, actually Steven did while I sobbed again. Steven weighed both of them, they did the calculations for 40ml (which is 8x the recommended dosage for Felicity). Apparently at that dosage Felicity and Seporah were both ok, I was pretty shocked and still scared out of my freakin’ mind. But it’s been 5 days and everyone’s cool (I actually couldn’t tell anyone because I’ve been so racked with massive amounts of guilt). Thankfully by chance the bottle was 3/4ths empty and not a brand new bottle that I left down. If it was somebody was going to lose their liver or their life (and nope I’m not being even remotely melodramatic, that’s just the truth, tylenol in large doses is NOT good).
I deserve the Best Mom Award ever, don’tcha think?
Oh and Poison Control is programed into my cell phone. I’m so worried they’re going to end up knowing us on a first name basis, we’ve probably called them 30 times. Our kids are constantly drinking things they shouldn’t. Adult benadryl being the only one we were told to go to the emergency room for (which Seporah called candy and was down at her level when we remodeled the house a year or so ago). But really, sunscreen, mouthwash, perfume, desitin, and a few others I can’t think of right now. All medications are up high now though (well usually, when I’m not stoned).
January 13, 2010
Posted in: Märia's Moments




Märia's Mom, Pam - January 13, 2010
Hey, I am of the belief that poison control should be programmmed into every mom and dad’s phone.
I felt terrrible when I found you at age 2 up on a chair with your brother feeding you my heart medication. We did end up in the Landstuhl emergency room that day, and you with a dose of epicac to make you vomit. Had we been in the U.S. and been able to contact poison control first, we would have been informed that the dose you took was safe and we didn’t have to induce vomitting. (to be fair, it was tough for the people in the ER to get ahold of poison control, that’s why they gave you the dose).
I heard from your Brother Jeremy that he too had to call poison control just last week for one of the babies drinking some Tylenol.
Hang in there. You are a wonderful mother.
Love you
Lynda - January 13, 2010
Actually, I think you and Steven are wonderful parents. I was so impressed with the love you showed for your girls while you were here. The feelings you have shared are very common for moms, I think – at least they were for me!
I’m constantly second-guessing myself and worrying that my kids will have tons of conversation material with their friends over some dinner table based on my mothering. Was I wrong to have Travis take Ritalin so that he could stay in school (before I homeschooled)? Was I wrong to hover over Lisa in her teen years?
Most things, you just have to do the best you know how, admit to your kids that you make mistakes, and hope they’ll remember the good stuff. As you would say: “It’s all good.”
Märia's Dad, Russ - January 13, 2010
God loves you, Märia; you are so special and the wonderful mother. Besides, I figure if we don’t kill our kids while you are raising them then we have succeeded.
Just keep the drugs and cleaning products locked up and hugs and kisses and cookies unlocked.
I love you guys, Dad
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